Here’s a five-step model I call the TEMPTaction model. It’s created based on an understanding of persuasion, great public-speaking delivery and communication principles. Let’s take a deeper look.
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Touch
The first "T” in TEMPTaction stands for touch. This doesn’t mean you need to physically reach out and touch your customers -- it means you need to metaphorically touch them with your communication. People make decisions based on emotion. If there’s no emotional connection, they’re not likely to act. If they don’t see your reasoning or a need to act, people won’t decide.
Another way to think of touch is to think of hugging people with your words. You need to communicate in a way that makes people feel embraced by your message. They need to feel engaged listening to you, they need to trust you and they need to be able to take comfort in what you’re saying. When people are relaxed and not on guard, they’re more likely to be open to your messaging and your requests for action.
This metaphorical idea of touch is often best demonstrated by tying in analogies, metaphors and storytelling, and by making a direct connection to a person’s life or situation. And the bigger your audience is, the more important it is to think of the common communication denominators. This way you’re letting each audience member decide for themselves how to relate to your content, and they can pull in an experience from their life to make that connection. Let me share a story about a persuasive conversation that made a meaningful connection to me (and my bank account).
I’ve talked to a handful of financial planners in my life, and the one I chose is the person who sat me down in a room and asked, "Jill, what does money mean to you?”
"What do you mean?” I asked.
"Let’s pretend you had all the money you needed to take care of all your bills, pay off the house, pay your health expenses, etc. Let’s say you didn’t have to stress about money in this way. What does money mean to you?”
With my response, we started a conversation about how I like to give back to the community, my philanthropic activities and projects I’d like to do that money would allow me to execute. We talked about how I want to travel more and take at least one longer international vacation each year.
Unlike other planners I’d spoken to, he didn’t have me look at money in the past or money in the future -- in terms of where I’d like to end up during retirement, or what I need to leave behind after death (not such a pleasant thought). Instead, he first wanted to get a solid understanding of what money meant to me in my life. He made a personal and emotional connection.
From that, he was able to assess my values. Based on those values, he prescribed what he thought was the appropriate amount of risks for my investments, etc., which is what a financial planner does. But he did it with my personal goals in mind.
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What he did that caught my attention was make it personal. He demonstrated that he really cared about what money enables me to do in my life. Instead of simply saying, "What number do you want to reach?” he positioned the goal in a different way: "Let’s say you reach that number: What is that going to look like, and how is that going to manifest in your life?” That was much more personal than, "Oh, we’ll get you to a million dollars by the time you’re 40.”
Instead, he focused on the value it would bring, the benefits and results that would come from reaching a monetary goal. He positioned it as "Here’s what it’s going to enable you to do,” and that was more important for me.
That is a prime example of hugging with words, and of providing the metaphorical touch in a persuasive presentation or conversation.
Eye contact
The "E” in TEMPTaction stands for eye contact. Eye contact is the number-one conveyor of honesty in the United States. If you’re going to persuade somebody to act, you have to establish a comfortable rapport with your eyes. If somebody doesn’t trust you, or feels you’re being dishonest, they’re not going to act, decide or buy. If you’re communicating via video, natural eye contact is also important.
Movement
The "M” stands for movement. You need to incorporate movement into your speech or presentation if you want to persuade people. Movement isn’t only about the physical space and positioning of the body, but also the idea of moving people from one point to another. You must demonstrate that your product or service can move someone from their current position to a better position. When your request has that capability to move someone to a better position, or change the status quo in a positive way, it’s more likely to produce an action. If you’ve already established a solid sense of touch, this movement will be more about the information and executory